I’ve always been fascinated with Japanese women.
Mysterious and charming, exceptionally feminine – to the point where some of you may even think it’s uncomfortable – and very beautiful, but extremely hard-working and career-oriented… Japanese women deserve much more praise than they get.
Here, I’ll tell you all I know about Japanese brides, dating sites, and legal issues of getting a Japanese bride to the US.
As for the questions about the character traits of these women and their motivation – I believe we need to listen what a Japanese woman will say about it.
Meet Xuemei – a 22 year Japanese mail order bride from Tokyo who’ll tell you (and me) her story and all the truth about Japanese brides!
Who are you?
Xuemei: I’m Xuemei – it’s a Chinese name, not Japanese, my mom is from Beijing, that’s why. I’m 22 years old. Despite my name, I’ve never been to China – I’ve lived in Tokyo all my life. I’m a piano teacher – a professional teacher, I mean, I’m studying at Ochanomizu University right now and I make money helping people mastering piano online. 3 months ago, I signed up on EasternHoneys – so that’s why I call myself a Japanese mail order bride.
Why did you become a mail order bride?
Xuemei: First of all, I’m not new to online dating. I always used dating apps, like Pairs, Tapple, Omiai, and others, to find interesting people to chat with. We don’t use such apps only to find a partner, it’s a very common practice here to find friends in dating apps. But these apps also work nice for romantic partner, of course. I wanted to meet a guy from America, so I just decided to try some international dating sites.
How did you find a mail order bride website?
Xuemei: I just googled something like “dating website to meet an American” or something similar. Some of the sites I found were paid and had a token… nanka (“wait”, a filler word in Japanese – editor’s note), not a token, a credit system or something like that. I wanted to find a dating site free for women, obviously. The others were just… I created a profile and got 0 messages and 0 responds to my messages. That’s when I realized I don’t clearly understand how mail order bride websites work so I simply read some expert guides and chose EasternHoneys. It’s nice, it’s free (only for women – editor’s note), and there are many real people here. I like it.
Why do you want a foreign husband?
Xuemei: Because Japanese people… Japanese men, I mean, they just don’t want to create a family. They prefer to be single, it’s a real problem we have here in Japan. I mean, they are nice and all that, but if you want to get married, if you want a wedding ceremony, children, and happy family life… They just don’t want it anymore. I know a lot of Japanese girls who meet foreign men because of it. That’s why I want to find a foreign husband, actually – because I think that family is extremely important but local guys don’t share the same views.
Have you already met someone?
Xuemei: Yes! I created a profile on this dating service 3 months ago and already talked to, like, 9 or 10 men from the US. They all are really nice and gentle, and they wanted serious relationships! I even almost met one guy, Jonathan, from New York – we almost decided to meet in Japan, but then he just deleted his profile. I don’t know what happened to him but I hope he’s ok. So, I continue searching for my man :)
What do you like about Western men and what you don’t like?
Xuemei: I’m not that experienced, I mean, I only talked to several men from the USA and never met them in person… But I can answer this question, I think. The thing I like most about foreign men is that they are much more serious when it comes to the relationship than the guys from Japan. Maybe it’s about the age – I mostly communicated with the guys in their 20s in Japan while men on the dating sites are usually a bit older – I don’t know. What I know is that they want serious, long-term relationships – and that’s what I love about them. As for the “what you don’t like” question… I don’t know, sorry. No idea.
People often worry about scams and fakes on dating sites. Is using mail order bride sites safe in your opinion?
Xuemei: Yes, yes! I met a scammer once! He pretended to be a guy from New York who wanted to send me money – I didn’t want it but he convinced me to give my Paypal for a few days… I felt that it wasn’t right, googled it, and realized that it’s a popular online dating scam – if I gave him my Paypal, he would then ask me to send him a commission, and then, he would just get lost! I contacted customer support and they blocked this guy in a few minutes.
I think it’s safe, yes! But you must always be careful. It’s like driving a car – it’s safe, but only if you pay attention to what’s going on around you.
Xuemei, can you help singles from the US understand Japanese women better? Give advice to men on how to attract a Japanese woman, please.
Xuemei: Oh, of course! I can’t speak for all Japanese women, obviously, but most of Japanese girls I know would agree with me on this list. Or at least on 1 or 2 points from it.
Dating Japanese brides should be much easier now with all the info provided by Xuemei. Let’s make a short conclusion:
Hundreds of American men marry beautiful Japanese women every single year. We contacted two men from the US who have found a Japanese wife – here are their stories
Brandon, a 35-year old sound technician from New York, has always been interested in Asian countries (especially in Japan), Japanese culture, and the history of this country.
He was also interested in dating Japanese women – that’s why he tried CuteAsianWoman in 2018.
He found Akari’s profile right after the registration and started chatting with her – as it turned out, this was fate.
Akari, a 26-year old childcare worker from Tokyo, wanted to find a man interested in creating a family and having children – and Brandon was exactly the man she wanted to meet on CuteAsianWoman.
They met twice in 2018 and 2019, and during the last meeting, Brandon proposed to her. Then, the things were happening fast – K-1 visa, marriage in New York, fast adaptation, new work for Akari…
Frank is a 41-year old electrician living in Kansas City. In the world without dating apps, it would be impossible for him to meet Yua—a 23-year old designer from Nagasaki. Lucky them, there is a TheLuckyDate app—that’s where they met, and that’s where their relationship started.
The age gap was not a problem for Frank and Yua—but Yua can’t say the same about her parents, of course. Well, Frank was a real gentlemen when they met—so he convinced her parents he is a great choice for their daughter.
They met online in 2021, and in a few months, Frank bought a ticket to Nagasaki. 3 months after that, he proposed to Yua—now, she is officially a Japanese bride.
They are still going through the K-1 application process that has become much more time-consuming since 2020, but we are sure they’ll go through it successfully!
Obviously, you can’t buy a Japanese wife.
As Xuemei said, it’s like online dating where you chat with people first and meet them afterward.
She uses EasternHoneys to meet foreign men—let’s talk about the cost of this dating site as an example.
This site has a credit system—you buy credits and then exchange them for various services. Here’s how much the credits cost:
Here’s what you can do for credits:
If you want to meet Japanese girls in person and spend at least 2 weeks in Japan, you’ll need to spend around $3,500. Here’s an approximate cost breakdown:
Returning to Japanese mail order brides websites, I should remind you that it’s very important to choose a trusted dating platform in order to not lose your money.
Here are the 2 alternative websites which can be compared to EasternHoneys in terms of quality.
If you’ve never used online platforms for Japanese women dating, you’ve come to the right place.
Here’s a short guide on how to meet a Japanese mail order wife online:
You don’t need to waste your time choosing a good dating site with Japanese girls. Here, you’ll find the best platforms with thousands of sexy Japanese women!
Yes!
You can meet a Japanese girl without any legal obstacles, and obviously, using dating sites to meet Japanese brides is 100% legal, too.
It’s also legal to marry a Japanese bride if you’re an American citizen.
As for getting a Japanese woman to the US, it’s also legal.
However, you will need to go through a pretty time-consuming process of getting a K-1 visa—and you’ll also need to prove that your relationship with your Japanese bride is bona fide (for love).
When it’s done, she’ll have to wait for 3 years—after that, she’ll be able to become a US citizen through naturalization.
As we’ve just said, it’s totally legal to get your Japanese girl to the US- after all, hundreds of Japanese wives enter the US on a K-1 visa every single year.
Here’s a short step-by-step guide on getting a Japanese woman to the United States legally:
Japanese mail order brides websites are the best option for those who want to meet a Japanese girl.
They are convenient, they are quite affordable, and it’s much faster to meet Japanese brides online than doing it offline.
However, there is a problem with Japanese mail order brides sites—and this problem is called “romance scam”.
Unfortunately, some men searching for beautiful Japanese women may face romance scammers on dating sites.
Here, we’ll tell you about the top 3 most common scams you might face on online dating websites.
When you meet a Japanese girlfriend online, and she asks you to send her money because she has problems, it’s most likely a scammer. A scammer creates a fake profile, chats with foreign men, sends fake photos, and then asks men to send him money—that’s how it works. It’s the simplest type of scam to avoid, by the way—just remember that you must not send money to any woman you met on a dating website.
If that beautiful Japanese girl for marriage wants to know your credit card number or your Paypal password, it’s 100% a red flag. If you reveal such information, the scammer will hack your online banking app and steal your money—so please, never reveal financial data, e.g., CC number, CVC code, or PayPal password.
This type of scam is very similar to the first one, “direct scam”. The only difference is that in this case, that beautiful Japanese woman asking you to send her $200 is real—it’s just that she is a “professional” dater. In the US, such people are also called gold-diggers—and that’s the best description for them. The good news is that the number of pro daters is quite low among Japanese mail order wives—and if you meet such a woman, you can easily block her account and forget about her.
